What can I get for my Mom who is in her 60's who feels her life is out of control, to give as a gift?

I'm sure you have apologized. I suggest you stay in touch and try to get her involved in some group activities, such as church groups or other local organizations. Perhaps mentoring a child at a local school would help. I know how she feels I'm 68 and with your friends and family moving we all get depressed. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!